Enjoy your life as you want, but do not live in fear!
But, you must take the initiative. In speaking with “help lines,” the emphasis is very clear that the one being battered must take the initiative. Take the initiative to help yourself and obtain whatever assistance is available.
“It’s Abuse” Wants to Control You!
According to a group, “It’s Abuse”, initiated at a major university, you do not have the right to be involved in a relationship that does not comport itself to the dictates of this group—if you do, you are WRONG!
Why should you care?
Because it is just such groups as these, similar to the self-proclaimed Moral Majority, who eventually believe their own self-righteousness and attempt to legally impose what they believe everyone should be doing.
Do you, as a coed, working girl, or whatever your status have the right to be spanked by your boyfriend, father, daddy, mom, uncle, next-door-neighbor, girlfriend, boss, etc. … if that is what you want?
Not according to this group which states:
“If one person in the relationship is humiliated, ridiculed, ignored, harassed, subjected to any controlling behavior or physically harmed by the other – it is relationship abuse, and it’s wrong. It’s the exact opposite of a healthy relationship. But it happens every day on campuses across the country. Now there’s a movement to stop relationship abuse.”
My, my, such pontificating, self-righteous snobs.
Be careful girls how you try to satisfy yourself or what type of personal relationship you want for yourself and your partner! You may be doing the wrong things and must be controlled to “help” you overcome your wrong-headed decisions!
Do you want an LDD relationship? If so, you are WRONG according to “It’s Abuse“!
Do you want to be spanked by your disciplinarian? Then, you are WRONG according to “It’s Abuse“!
Now, please understand, I am not advocating the abuse of any girl.
When activities are pursued in a consensual relationship, it is not abuse of any kind, regardless of how often the girl is spanked, slapped, made to satisfy her man, or any other activity that they both enjoy.
It is no one’s business what activities a couple pursues.
And, to see just how dedicated this group is, one but has to view its “recruiting” tactics:
“Together, we can stop relationship abuse. Right here, right now.
Your first step is to join the Movement. By joining, you pledge to do what you can to help end relationship abuse. (And, you also might win free stuff!)”
Well, that’s certainly praise-worthy. If they can’t get you to join because it’s the right thing to do, they’ll just bribe you! Apparently bribery is a worthwhile activity!
Now, is there such thing as an “abusive relationship”? Of course there is.
And, what are those? They are very easy to recognize—they are relationships in which the spanking, hitting, etc. are not consensual. I have previously helped to put a stop to such a relationship—at the request of the girl being abused!
One starts down a very slippery slope, however, when one believes that they have the right to tell someone else what is “abuse” and that they have a right to “intervene”. The statistics used to further this group’s claims of “abuse” are staggering:
“Three-quarters of students report knowing someone who’s been in an abusive relationship.”
Many problems with using this claim upon which to pursue a “cause”:
(1) The entire survey is anecdotal. What is “abuse” to one student may not be to another.
(2) Was the “abuse” actually “abuse”, or did the girl simply have an extensive amount of “hickies”? According to this group, “hickies” are forbidden!!! Don’t you dare let a boy bite you as a result of passion. Shame! Shame!
(3) ¾ of students know about an abusive relationship??? Goodness gracious, mercy me, these schools, all in Ohio(!), are just rampant with out-of-control couples who go around abusing each other! When do they ever have time to learn or work? Or, possibly they all know the same couple, and the “problem” is inconsequential.
OK, actual abuse is a crime. Prosecute it! Otherwise, stay out of the way and keep your own feelings to yourself and those with whom you want to relate. If you do not want to get spanked, then say so and date only those who won’t. If you are in a relationship where you are not being treated as you would like, then YOU get help.
NOTE: You cannot “save” your partner from abusing you!!! Abuse will only escalate!!! Do not wait until you are seriously injured!!! Do not go back to your partner and expect anything to change!!! If you are being abused today, you will be abused tomorrow, you will be abused next week, you will be abused next month, and, unfortunately, at some point it will be too late and you will be seriously injured or dead!!! You must take the initiative to put a stop to it!!!
If you are incapable of making your own decisions and need to be supervised in order to get out of such a relationship, then find someone who will “control” you so that you can get out and get into a “proper” relationship.
After all, if we did not have this group to “control” you, you would still be in a relationship being controlled by someone of whom this group disapproves. Pick your Masters carefully!
According to “It’s Abuse,” your relationship is “right” only if you are being “controlled” by someone from “It’s Abuse” who “knows” what you should be doing in a relationship and will “help” you get it right!
You see, “It’s Abuse” actually is not advocating that you not be controlled; they just want to make sure that you are controlled by them and according to their own precepts, and you do not have a right to do what you want to do.
However, here at Spanked Coeds & Girls-Spanked-Bottoms, I believe that:
You have a right to your own feelings,
You have a right to your own beliefs,
You have a right to your own sexuality,
You have a right to satisfy yourself as you want in a consensual relationship, and
You have a right to repudiate anyone who would tell you what is “acceptable” behavior in your relationships!
If you would like to share your thoughts or share how you are disciplined and punished, please go and complete our survey. Go to: http://www.spankedcoeds2.com/Polls.html
Tell us if you believe that you are being abused or that you enjoy the relationship you are in.