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Scottish-Girl wrote:
It’s not a problem at all with you reporting about the wetness I get when I think about being spanked. I hope it was of use to you and is of interest to your blog readers if you choose to post it. It was quite a release to write it all down to be honest and fill everything out.
Girls are often embarrassed about getting wet when they think about being spanked, or when watching a man remove his belt as he gets ready to use it on her, or when reporting to be spanked, but it is all quite natural and expected. When a girl reports to me to be spanked, I will most often give her a nude inspection to see that her nipples are erect, and to stroke her clit to make sure she is wet. If not, I will pinch her nipples until she cries, and stroke her clit to climax. It is important for a girl to report properly to be spanked!
I can’t argue that spankings do work. I’m not sure that everyone would feel the same. Especially as we live in an age where it seems to be dying out altogether. It’s strange though, because it’s taken me a few years to come to terms with everything. At the time and immediately after I was just cross about it all and couldn’t see much beyond that. My firm opinion was that I had been essentially blackmailed by a bit of a dirty old man, and whilst that’s partly true, I was ignoring the part I had played in getting into that situation and also the, then unknown, benefit that it had on my self-discipline. I also must say, that despite ending up half naked most of the time, he never touched me inappropriately. I think for him the nudity was part of the discipline, and my embarrassment at it was sufficient for him to make his point.
Here Scottish-Girl states what many girls have found out—spankings do work in terms of helping them to achieve their goals. Unfortunately, as she recognizes, there is a lot of social pressure against being spanked. However, the distinction may need to be made that while there is a legitimate concern over spanking children, when a girl is 18+, the decision is hers, and if, as Scottish-Girl has determined for herself that spanking her is beneficial for how she behaves and feels, that is all that needs to be considered, and what somewhat else thinks is totally irrelevant. Every girl has a right to her own feelings … she has a right to her own beliefs … she has a right to live her life as she sees fit … she has a right to live a DD Lifestyle if that is what she wants.
Also, understanding the fact that I’d been left with a subconscious interest in being spanked took until very recently for me to accept. I have to solely put it down to my experiences on the farm, as I really don’t remember ever even thinking about the topic in my adolescent years. Thankfully there is a wealth of resources and information etc. at the click of a mouse these days. Which means I can at least satisfy curiosities and learn more about the subject and have interesting discussions with people much more experienced with spanking, like yourself. Idle googling was how I happened on your excellent website.
There are more girls than one might believe who do have more than an “idle interest” in being spanked. I have numerous emails from girls who want me to spank them for a variety of reasons. Some simply want to be punished for what they have done. Others want the feeling of being wanted and cared for when they are made to do what they are told to do and spanked hard when they don’t. Others want to actually live in a DD home where they are continually controlled, told what to do, and spanked hard when they disobey or misbehave.
Thank you for thoughts on the fetish/lifestyle issue. I must be honest, I used the word “fetish” without too much thought. It’s a word I see a lot on the internet linked to spanking and I don’t really know where I’m at. I’ll do my best to describe it, as I see it, and you can judge for yourself. And maybe give your opinion. I realise there’s some contradictions in my thinking, but I can’t change that.
Of course, there are girls who simply want to be spanked for cause or just-because. There are actresses who want to be spanked hard and will yell to be spanked harder if they are not being spanked hard enough. Such spankings are a result of a “spanking fetish”. A “spanking lifestyle” is something more involved. A Spanking Lifestyle is for a girl who desires to be controlled and spanked on a daily and routine basis. However, such lifestyles are difficult to maintain, and must be entered into, if at all, very carefully. The “contradictions” Scottish-Girl recognizes in her own thinking is quite common when a girl is just beginning to experience and feel the need to be spanked, and possibly controlled on a more permanent basis. Just proceed carefully.
- I know from my experiences that being spanked hurts and is a very humiliating experience all round. There’s no part of the actual act that I enjoy.
Of course, a girl is not supposed to “enjoy” a spanking, which is why it works, as Scottish-Girl has recognized. And, the humiliation is all part of the punishment and effectiveness of being spanked. Part of that humiliation is making the girl strip naked. A naked girl is much more likely to pay attention to what she is being told. Also, a naked girl OTK with her bottom presented to be spanked listens even more closely.
2. I know, now, that being spanked can help focus me and can be of benefit to me personally in the longer term.
Scottish-Girl has learned a good lesson—spankings help a girl to focus her attention and to develop the behaviors that are of benefit to her learning and behaving properly. As noted in the photo-story below, I will often go to a girl’s room, after I’ve sent her there to study, to make her bend over her desk so that I can use a strap on her. These spankings help to further her focusing that is expected when she studies. Also, when I send her to her room she will be naked and must remain naked as she studies so that she is always ready to bend over her desk to be spanked.
Of course, an After-School Spanking is also a Focusing Spanking. It helps the girl to continue to focus on her schoolwork after coming home from school when she may be tired. Tired or not, she is going to study and be alert when she does. These spankings make sure that she will remain alert so that she can learn. After these spankings she is then sent to her room where I will go to her every hour or so and spank her again to help keep her focused.
- The subject (spanking) interests me and is now often in my thoughts, and seeing images and videos/reading stories of girls my age being spanked is exciting to me.
Actually, about 50% of those who visit my promo site, www.SpankedCoeds2.com, are girls and they visit the site for many of the same reasons that Scottish-Girl does—they like to see other girls being spanked! Watching other girls getting spanked also helps to validate their own desires for being spanked. They now know that they are not all that “weird” and are, in fact, quite normal! To see a fairly “normal” spanking of a girl in a Domestic Discipline Lifestyle Home, click on the following Link below the Title Frame.
http://spankedcoeds2.com/Katrina, Domestic Discipline Lifestyle Home, Part 1.wmv
4. Imagining myself in a position of being spanked, and all the associated formality and drama is exciting to me.
I have many emails from girls who say essentially the same thing, and some are much more graphic. That is, I often get an email that says that they have watched one of my movies and they have just gotten very wet and climaxed as they watched the movie. And, these are girls and not men! We always think that it is men who visit these sites for their own prurient interests, but, in fact, girls visit the site for the same reasons—to masturbate as they watch other girls getting spanked, and then fantasizing that it is them over my knee getting spanked. And many girls are asking for more of the “ritual”; i.e., inspecting a girl, measuring her, caressing her, massaging her, making her assume a variety of positions, and, of course, spanking her. In the case of Scottish-Girl, however, it goes much further—she is thinking about how it would be if she were controlled in a manner that would actually help her be a better girl and improve herself. The spanking is exciting, but the results are what are desired.
5. I can, in moments of weakness, even fantasise about my previous spankings, which is at odds with how I think I should feel about it.
This is common confusion—girls actually feel excited about reliving spankings that they have had, or spankings that they have seen other girls receive, or spankings that they have seen in movies and pretend that they are real for themselves. But Scottish-Girl essentially answers her own question: Her thinking “is at odds with how I think I should feel”. That is, the current social norms are that spanking is somehow abnormal and if anyone thinks that it is alright must indicate that there is something wrong with them. In fact, there is a group called “It’s Abuse”, which was initiated at a major university, and their goal is to tell you what you should do and how you should think. And, if you do not agree with them, then it is you who is wrong! According to them: you do not have the right to be involved in a relationship that does not comport itself to the dictates of this group—if you do, you are WRONG! You can see my full report on this group by going to the following post: http://spankedcoeds2.com/blog/2013/04/01/its-abuse-they-want-to-control-you/. As you can see, many conflicting feelings are induced by such pontificating groups like It’s Abuse, and others who want to control your thinking and beliefs.
Here, we promote individual rights and beliefs as stated below:
- You have a right to your own feelings,
- You have a right to your own beliefs,
- You have a right to your own sexuality,
- You have a right to satisfy yourself as you want in a consensual relationship, and
- You have a right to repudiate anyone who would tell you what is “acceptable” behavior in your relationships!
- You have a right to decide for yourself!
- You have a right to be spanked!
Recognize self-righteous bigots for who they are and decide for yourself what is right for you.
6. It has been very strange for me to have dreams associated with spanking and wake up wet downstairs and it has taken time to listen to my subconscious.
Here again we have the confusion resulting from cultural norms and what we have been told is wrong thinking! There is nothing strange or unusual or wrong about waking up after a dream of being spanked with your clit so wet you have gotten your PJs or nightgown wet, or even finding that you are massaging your clit to induce climax. What your “subconscious” is telling you is that you actually do enjoy getting spanked! Again, 50% of my viewers are girls, and girls who write and tell me how much they get turned on by watching other girls getting spanked and fantasizing that it is them over my knee getting spanked. Your own feelings are validated.
In my head I don’t think a “lifestyle” is something I want at the moment. I’m still young but that may end up being something I explore but I’m a very independent girl and I can’t see that sitting well with me. Before our discussion I think I’d decided that I was simply looking for someone to provide “ad-hoc” spankings for now. Something and someone that would provide both the discipline I was looking for but also the fantasy element that I could anticipate and then look back on. I know this is at odds with the real world scenario of “you shouldn’t get to choose why and when you’re spanked”, but putting that aside as impractical for now; then everything else would be realistic and I’m now grown up enough to know what I need help with. It also seems to me that the lifestyle thing seems to include a lot more than just spanking as a form of discipline and it seems to edge towards sexual control and bondage etc. and I’m a long way from that!!
Again notice how cultural norms continue to come into play: “you shouldn’t get to choose why and when you’re spanked”. But that is only in a relationship that entails a Domestic Discipline Lifestyle Home. So, the “real world scenario” only applies to special circumstances. But real world scenarios also apply to the girl who simply wants to be spanked once or twice a week, or once or twice a month. You determine what the “real world” is for you. And, again, it is nobody’s business what you do with your own life or what you like to do, even getting spanked. But, there are legitimate concerns and Scottish-Girl is proceeding cautiously, as everyone should. A Spanking Lifestyle is not for everyone, and just because you want to get spanked, does not mean that you want to be controlled and spanked every day by someone telling you what to do.
There are actually very few Domestic Discipline Lifestyle Homes that are successful. As noted previously, one such home is not successful because the husband just does not want to dedicate the time and effort it takes to always be controlling and spanking his wife! A Domestic Discipline Lifestyle Homes is actually more difficult for the husband/daddy than it is for the wife/daughter because he has to always be in control and know when and how to spank the girl.
So most girls will start out by simply reporting to me once or twice a week to be spanked. They will bring with them their Punishment Journal where they keep track of what they have done or not done for which they need to be spanked. Then, a punishment session will be arranged to address their spanking needs. Although I have had some girls who simply come in, get undressed, hand me a hairbrush and bend over my knee for a 10-minute spanking. They then get up, get dressed, go home and report back a couple of weeks later for another spanking. I had one girl who drove down from Chicago twice a month to be spanked on Saturday and then again on Sunday before returning to Chicago.
Scottish-Girl is accurate also that a Domestic Discipline Lifestyle does tend to involve a more sexual aspect. Part of this is due to the fact that a girl cannot be truly controlled without controlling her sexual desires. And, part of this is also a part of the Spanking Lore that dictates that after a girl is spanked, she should kneel and provide sucking-services to thank her disciplinarian for spanking her. And there are reports from many girls in such relationships that support this lore. But, it is because both partners want that as part of their relationship and fantasy.
But there is also another aspect of a Domestic Discipline Lifestyle that results in a more sexual overtone—daughters, in particular need to have their sexual activity controlled when they date and will be more frequently given nude inspections in the home. And it is even the daughters who recognize the need for this control. Nancy, the 18-year-old girl in Florida, was the one who contacted me to come and be a live-in mentor for her and her single mom. She was just starting college and knew that if she was not controlled and made to obey, she would not succeed in school, and she knew that her mom needed the strict control also for her to behave and be the good mom she should be, rather than just laying around all the time, not working, and not learning to be the submissive and obedient girl she should be.
When Nancy contacted me, she said that I was to control everything she did and make sure that she behaved herself and was obedient. She said that at any time in the home I could stop her and make her get her clothes off and present herself for a full-body nude inspection, and especially to check to see if she had been masturbating or fantasizing too much as indicated by her clit being too wet. A room in the home was to be furnished as a Punishment Room where she was to be taken for her evaluations and inspections. She was to be made to lay back on the Evaluation Table and get her legs up and spread wide so that I could check to see if she was shaved smooth, which was required, and to see if she had been masturbating or playing around when she returned from a date. And, if there was a problem, I was to spank her severely.
Also, I was to stop her at any time in the home, make her get undressed and bend over my knee to be spanked any time that I wanted to spank her for Maintenance or Just-Because. She recognized that in order for her to always be focused on what was expected of her that no-notice inspections and spankings would be necessary. By having no-notice inspections and spankings, she would always have to be thinking about what she was doing. Also, that she was to hang a paddle and strap on the inside of her closet door so that every day when she opened her closet she would be reminded of what happens to her bottom if she is disobedient or misbehaves. The reason for nude inspections can be seen by the following photo-story. And, it shows why a girl must be inspected as soon as she gets home from a date.
Now, in a Domestic Discipline Lifestyle there are many reasons for the control of the sexual activity of a girl, depending on the appropriate relationship between the girl and her disciplinarian. The “sexual control” cited by Scottish-Girl is the one that is probably most thought of when thinking about sexual control; i.e., the actual use and abuse of a girl sexually. But that depends on the nature of the lifestyle relationship. That is, there are many such relationships that may include: Husband/Wife (which certainly will include the full control of the wife sexually); Daddy/Daughter (which is as described above, and that does not actually include any sexual activity between the two, but only the evaluation of the daughter and her inspection to determine her sexual activity and the resulting punishment that she will have to receive if she has been playing around); Master/Slavegirl (which is just what it says—the total control of the slavegirl by her master to include using the girl sexually any time that her master wants to sue her); Teacher/Student (which is focused on academics and does not involve any sexual contact, although in some communities it will and is accepted; even to the point of having the girl kneel to “thank” her teacher after she is spanked. Or when the actual instruction is that of sexual obedience, etc.; however, most Teacher/Student relations are most often restricted to spanking the girl for academic failure); Boss/Secretary (which can include a variety of relationships with respect to sex. There are, in fact, many such relationships where the girl must provide sexual services to her boss, and the movie scenarios that depict a secretary bending over her desk to not only be spanked, but to be sexually enjoyed, does occur in real-life scenarios. I previously had a job in a factory in a small town where the boss would take one of the girls to his office twice a day for sex. Everyone knew what was going on, and he just continued each day. If the girl did not obey, she would be fired. But, the relationship may also just be a disciplinary relationship in which the girl is just spanked); HOH/Maid (this is a common fantasy and can involve just spanking or a combination of spanking and sexual enjoyment); Parent/Babysitter (spanking a babysitter probably occurs more often that one might suspect. But it is only for spanking and does not include any sexual aspect, or at least most often. However, I have known of situations where the girl did have to submit to sex as well as being spanked. She had to arrive about 45 minutes early and was taken to a guest room above the garage. There she had to get her clothes off and go over the parent’s knee to be spanked. Then she had to kneel and satisfy him. This was all witnessed by and supported by the wife. Further, the wife would get the girl undressed for her spanking and guide her over her husband’s knee. She would hand him the hairbrush for her spanking and the husband would spank the girl until the wife told him to stop. Then the girl had to kneel to provide her sucking-services. When the parents came home later that evening, the girl was taken back to the guest room and spanked again. While most anything is possible, such babysitting scenarios are probably very limited.); etc. Whether a relationship includes sexual activity is totally up to the partners, and living in a Domestic Discipline Lifestyle does not necessarily involve sex or sexual control.
Again, as with Scottish-Girl … what you do is up to you, and is no one else’s business!
I totally appreciate this isn’t an easy area for a young girl to be taking steps alone, but I’m being very careful. I’ve also ruled out going down this road with a partner. I had a (sort of) boyfriend last year and I mentioned something in passing to him (about liking having my bottom smacked) while we were fooling around, and he gave me a few slaps, but all that taught me was that for me spankings and sex are two separate things and they probably should stay that way.
And this is highly recommended. But actually, if spanking is but foreplay, then that is what you are doing—playing. If a girl wants to be in a true Domestic Discipline Lifestyle Home, then she will have to submit to being inspected and spanked as ordered by her disciplinarian. Especially daughters will have to assume the position shown below as she is spanked during her study sessions, or when she comes home from a date. In Florida, I would spank Nancy in this position several times a week. Misbehavior, disobedience, or not completing academic requirements is simply not accepted, and, in the home, the girl is often naked so that she can be easily and quickly spanked when required.