Aww, debs . . . .I do think Jack may be right about a few things, saifecicplly concerning self-destruction as it pertains to ensuring failure. So many of us throughout out a lifetime of . . . . . . well, for some of us, it’s been abuse. . . . . for others, it’s been neglect . . . . . . for others, it’s been general instability . . . . . . for yet others, it’s been forced maturity . . . . .whatever the case may be, so many of us have learned that when we sense success or growth on the horizon, it’s a false hope and it’s not only leading us down an emotionally painful and jarring path, but that someone will come along and jerk it out from under us, and then laugh as we flounder in the pain and confusion. Much like with relationships, the easier thing to do is the END the success quickly and be in control of when and how the pain is applied as opposed to thinking you might actually make it this time and finding yourself flat on your back, wind knocked out of you YET AGAIN trying to figure out what happened. What it really boils down to, though, is trust do you truly trust not only Jack, but the lessons he’s teaching and the advice he gives? If you do, it will show in your behavior, even if it is only with tentative, babygirl steps forward, because you know that HE will help catch you when the desire to end it all, whatever that may be in the current situation, starts to creep in. Like everything else it’s a process of communication. Talk to him, allow him to guide, and take solace in what he’s already taught you. 🙂
Aww, debs . . . .I do think Jack may be right about a few things, saifecicplly concerning self-destruction as it pertains to ensuring failure. So many of us throughout out a lifetime of . . . . . . well, for some of us, it’s been abuse. . . . . for others, it’s been neglect . . . . . . for others, it’s been general instability . . . . . . for yet others, it’s been forced maturity . . . . .whatever the case may be, so many of us have learned that when we sense success or growth on the horizon, it’s a false hope and it’s not only leading us down an emotionally painful and jarring path, but that someone will come along and jerk it out from under us, and then laugh as we flounder in the pain and confusion. Much like with relationships, the easier thing to do is the END the success quickly and be in control of when and how the pain is applied as opposed to thinking you might actually make it this time and finding yourself flat on your back, wind knocked out of you YET AGAIN trying to figure out what happened. What it really boils down to, though, is trust do you truly trust not only Jack, but the lessons he’s teaching and the advice he gives? If you do, it will show in your behavior, even if it is only with tentative, babygirl steps forward, because you know that HE will help catch you when the desire to end it all, whatever that may be in the current situation, starts to creep in. Like everything else it’s a process of communication. Talk to him, allow him to guide, and take solace in what he’s already taught you. 🙂